Skin, Height, Appearance: How to Let Go of Your Insecurities
Why your insecurity will affect your more negatively than the actual effect of the flaw
In the age of social media, we compare ourselves to photos of others. We begin to scrutinize our own appearance; we become more aware of our own flaws; we start to sulk instead of standing tall.
This is dangerous. It’s dangerous because our self esteem is at stake—our confidence is at stake, the way we see ourselves and the way we interact with others changes. That’s why I will explain 3 reasons why confidence and personality impacts you more than any self-perceived physical flaw.
Confidence will override the objective effect of the flaw. When we interact with people in real life, we don’t scrutinize every ounce of their body and face as we would on social media. We get an impression formed by demeanor, facial expressions, speech, and gestures. People are living spirits—you are a living spirit. Therefore, don’t feel restrained by a self-perceived physical flaw like being short or having bad skin, but rather express and live with confidence and ease. Because that will affect others’ impressions of you more.
People will respect you for who you are as a human being: your character. If you are sincere, look out for others, always lend a helping hand, and respond to rudeness nonchalantly, people will begin to admire you and value your opinion.
People’s perception of you will improve significantly if you carry yourself with confidence and charisma no matter the circumstances. Truly, truly, truly: others see you the way you see yourself. Therefore, you must learn to accept what you cannot change about your appearance in order to transcend insecurity—once you do, it will cease to impact you.
I encourage you to start respecting yourselves more, believing in yourselves more, and treat people with a bigger heart: don’t sweat the small stuff, be generous and give more than take. Life will treat you the way you treat it. If you live with insecurity, self-doubt, and fear everyday, your potential will be hindered. However, if you face life with courage and without taking every small thing too seriously—including yourself—you will be a lot happier and develop more authentic, fulfilling relationships with those around you. You’ll find that nobody cares about your “flaw” more than you do—with that, you will learn to stop caring.